Re:Bothered!
Sunday, November 04 2007 @ 06:01 AM CST

Quote by: kristyjo I'm completely out of that game, and I'm actually in a part of the 'music business' where people are more comfortable when women DON'T try to be 'sexy' - I teach music in elementary school. Nevertheless, I think the answer is to strike a balance that is modest enough for your own standards, yet engaging enough to encourage a second look and listen. I suspect that's not the same style for everyone, but if a unique and memorable 'look' are part of the whole pop music scene, why not go for something you're comfortable with for your personna? (As you can see by my pic, sassy, fat and happy are my personal trademarks.)

'Pleasant, sensible, WARM and talented' would be my description of you and that's all that should matter, but...... if it was all down to People like Simon Cowell (as it usually is these days) it would all be down to being girly girly cheapy cheapy and available, judging by his decission on X-Factor last night. How predictable that he chose the Girly group with doubtable singers over the male group who he knows are excellent singers with excellent harmonies, because as he says "They stand a better chance of succeeding in the 'music' business". Phooey!....or.... That says it all.

http://www.macjams.com/song/36477

Re:Bothered!
Sunday, November 04 2007 @ 06:05 AM CST

Ok guys - lets re-set here. The fact that I might have a posy sexy-ish, come over here picture here on my profile and a couple of shots on my myspace where I am showing a bit of cleavage is not what I am talking about here although I understand what some are saying. I'm not a prude and not ashamed of the female form and I was so not posting those shots to make people think - ooo look at her breasts!

My beef is simply getting 'bothered' when girls are shouting out about their tits as if it's the only thing they have to offer aside from their 'music' and offering it to people on a plate as some kind of prize or object to be had just like that in order to get something/where else . And I didn't say I was trying to change the system, how could I? I was just saying how I felt...that's all. The fact that it has produced such a response is great and maybe does have a ripple effect across the globe and if that does produce change, it wasn't meant to, just like my 'cleavage' shots which were not meant to say 'hey come feel me up' but perhaps did so involuntarily - sorry

Re:Bothered!
Sunday, November 04 2007 @ 06:06 AM CST

Thank you Moviz - just posted by last post before I saw yours

Re:Bothered!
Sunday, November 04 2007 @ 09:25 AM CST

wellll, being a dumb male and speaking from that position I remember a time when the words tits and arse were not really mentioned in public so much. it was thought of as crude. however in private in small groups men tended to; and it was a sign of under developed character. Yogananda avocated celebacy and sex only for procreation. Are you willing to go that far? You have to ante up to get something out of the pot.

I went to a recital the other night and yes, there was a beautiful girl and a good looking guy; it was their recital. They were young. The piano covered most of her body; but i was drawn to her music first. she did a wonderful job of Rachmanioff. I was moved. actually i didn't go to this place just for the recital and was busy in another room and heard the music and was drawn out. I listened and listened and it was beautiful the way she played. her music was much different than his as she played from a score and he played what seemed to be without. couldn't see any score actually as they had them memorized. anyway after awhile my mind drifted while the girl was playing and i noticed her looks and being a male was curious what she was wearing. jeans and barefoot... i thought the barefoot thing odd and a bit sexy and then i remembered my daughter dressing up and realized sometimes no matter what a girl does it is going to register on the sex meter.... then I just sort of let go and went back to enjoying the music. what is important was, that her music was so wonderful that it surpassed the sex thing and I will always remember her brilliance and secondly her looks.

Sex is odd with looks. really if i had to disect them i could find a lot of error in the way her face was constructed; chin too slight, clothes raggedy, bare feet odd, toenail polish broken.. which could be construed as ugly in a relative view. some would not see that and feel only attracted to her. beauty is actually good and bad at the same time. when you spend time with a beautiful person you start to see irregularities. You really shouldn't feel bothered by this. It is just nature trying to make babies. Humans are more than that. It does amaze me how many humans are cowed by nature. Some fight fiercely for the right to submit to nature and feel badly when they meet someone who does not feel the need for sex constantly in their life.

However a bother is another thing. a bother is a nervous problem. if it persists then i suggest a change of venue; like a trip to Italy or the isles of Greece, or maybe just a long walk.